Happiness is not easy. Happiness doesn’t just happen. And happiness can be damn hard to make happen. there are so many factors that determine our happiness, different for every person and often out of our control. Sometimes you can have a dream about you think will make you happy, only to realise one day that that’s not it. Happiness isn’t permanent either – as sad as it is to admit, what made us happy once may not make us feel that way forever. People change and grow, and so do the things we want out of life. Maybe you realise your dream job isn’t all that great. Maybe you realise you don’t love the person you thought you did. Maybe you’ve been fooling yourself, pretending things are ok when they’re not. Life is not a fairytale, not like the movies, where everything works out for the best in the end. And I think it’s important to realise that, if you want a chance at finding real happiness. Accept the things will never be perfect, and maybe you can learn to be happy with what you’ve got.
And I think we’re all a little messed up somehow.No one is perfect, no one has the ideal life. Maybe you’re close, close enough to be happy with what you’ve got, and that’s great. But we’ve all got our problems, our anxieties and insecurities. Maybe some people can get past some of them. But ridding yourself completely of all of them? Has anyone ever managed that? Maybe your problems seem pretty insignificant compared to other people’s – what’s a little stress compared to full-blown depression? But that doesn’t mean they’re not important to you. You can just magically make your issues go away by belittling them and pretending they don’t matter. Ok, sometimes you do have to man up a bit and try to be strong – but it’s ok to admit when you’re struggling, even if just to yourself. You’ve got a better chance at finding happiness if you face your problems, instead of sweeping them under the rug.
And maybe some of us don’t believe we’ll ever be truly happy. Maybe we don’t know what it is we need to be happy, maybe we don’t know how to overcome our problems, maybe we don’t think we deserve it. But that doesn’t mean we should stop trying. Seize opportunities, say yes to things, go after what you want. Accept that perfect fairy tales don’t happen, but also that that doesn’t mean real life has to be a disappointment. It might be scary, you might regret things – but better to regret doing them, than not trying in the first place, right? Just don’t give up. Happiness is not easy – but it’s not impossible either.
Song: Happy – The Maine